Thoughts on Self-Love
“Self love is complicated. Self love is a lifetime process of continually showing up for ourselves in a compassionate, empathetic way. We don’t always live in a world that is reflecting back to us our own brilliance and sacredness. Self love is an act of reclaiming and redefining and owning that for ourselves in the context of a world that isn’t necessarily as kind to us as we would choose to be to ourselves.” ~Christy Tennery-Spalding.
Self love is complicated
Self love is complicated. I acknowledge that. I give myself permission to accept the complications that come with trying to love myself.
I recognize that I will be learning more about self love over time. The fact that I know less now than I will later is simply a reflection of the complicatedness of self love. It is okay that I don’t know it all right now. I love myself and where I am in my journey today.
Self love is a lifetime process
Self love is a lifetime process. I will be working on practicing self love for the rest of my life. I show up for myself every day. When I realize that I forgot to practice self love, I forgive myself for that. I pick myself up, dust myself off, and return to my practice of self love. I do not use harsh words or angry words with myself. I love myself and my journey. I celebrate how far I have come each day.
I love myself with compassion
I love myself with compassion. This means I have concern for myself. I have sympathy for myself. I am not wallowing in misery. But I recognize that some of my days are challenging, and I love myself with compassion. I give myself permission to be fragile.
The world doesn’t always reflect back
The world doesn’t always reflect back my brilliance and sacredness. This is sometimes how the world works. It does not mean I am not brilliant. It does not mean I am not sacred. I celebrate my own personal brilliance. I celebrate my own personal sacredness. I reflect upon that now. I surround myself with loving friends and family that can help me celebrate my personal brilliance. I surround myself with loving friends and family that can help me celebrate my sacredness. When I need it, I ask for this directly. I explain to my friends what I need so, when I need it, my friends understand when I say, “I need you to reflect my brilliance to me. I need you to reflect my sacredness to me.” I ask, when I need it, because it is part of my self love practice.
I reclaim my self love practice
I reclaim my self love practice. I reclaim it for me and me alone. However, I recognize that my self love practice enhances my relationships with my friends, my family, and my coworkers. I recognize that my self love practice makes me better, as well. When the world is not kind to me, I remind myself that I, and I alone, have the power to reclaim my self love practice, and I do so with reckless abandon. I work to be kinder to me than the world is.
I redefine my self love practice over time
I redefine my self love practice over time. As I learn new things, I incorporate them. Self love is ever changing. What remains constant is that I am committed to self love. It is okay that my self love practice varies. What matters is that I exercise self care and self love consistently. I celebrate as I redefine my practice. I can’t wait to see where my self care and self love practice takes me next. I am constantly seeking new ways to be kind to me. This kindness will then spill out into the world, making it a better place.
I own my self love practice
In a world that is not always kind, I work to own my self love practice. This means I care for it, as I do all that I own. I embrace the fact that I am loving myself with intention. I embrace the fact that I am loving myself with purpose. I embrace the fact that I am loving myself with deliberation. I embrace the fact that I am loving myself with particular care. The world is not always kind. I strive, however, to always be kind to myself. I create my world. I am responsible for my thoughts. I choose to love myself.
Kindness matters. I choose, daily, to be kind to myself. This may be the ultimate form of self love. As I continue my journey, each day, as I practice self love, I will ponder the importance of kindness.