Finding Your Purpose
Finding Your Purpose
“One of the most challenging things that I’ve gone through is not knowing my purpose.” Michelle Kirsch. Michelle later found her purpose, and she says, “Intuitive and intentional living . . . are the pillars of being happy, of feeling fulfilled and content.”
Michelle isn’t the only one who has struggled with not knowing her purpose. If you are struggling to find yours, here are a few suggestions:
· Just start listening;
· Identify what you love and are passionate about;
· Let go of your preconceived notions about what you are “supposed” to be doing;
· Stop worrying about what other people might think;
· Stop buying into the notion that you are wasting your time or talents;
· Stop playing it safe;
· Identify what you are most afraid of.
Just Start Listening
Whether through journaling, meditation, or mindfully listening to your heart, just start listening to the messages your mind, body, and spirit are telling you. Actively listen to the information you are receiving. Examine it. Make sure you aren’t telling yourself lies about what you are hearing.
Identify What You Love and Are Passionate About
What do you love to do? What feeds your soul? Don’t start by trying to identify a career path (if you haven’t already got one in mind). Rather, start by identifying your strengths and talents. Say you love knitting. Can you make a career out of knitting? Now is the time to tap into your network. Start brainstorming together. You could open a yarn shop. You could teach knitting online. You could start a knitting initiative. People go to yoga classes, even though they could do it at home. Why wouldn’t people love a drop in knitting center? The key here is to throw caution to the wind and explore the possibilities. Talking about possibilities as if you can’t fail.
Let Go of Your Preconceived Notions About What You are “Supposed” to be Doing
Stop listening to that voice in your head that is telling you, “But you’ve always wanted to be a Doctor. You’re already in medical school.” You do not have to live with a career decision you made ten years ago, back when you were in high school. Think about it. Would you take your 16 your old self’s opinions about the perfect partner, the best clothing choices, the finest makeup, the best meals? Of course not! Why are you relying on your career path decision if you aren’t finding it satisfactory anymore?
Stop Worrying About What Other People Might Think
You are the only one who is going to be living your life. Truth be told, the combination of your life decisions cannot possibly be 100 percent in alignment with all the people you know whose opinions you care about. Life is a series of moments. Each moment that you are worried what others think, each moment that you are lying to yourself by insisting you should stay on a path that no longer brings you joy, is a moment that you could be living a life you love. What other people think isn’t nearly as important as what choices you make with your life.
Stop Buying into the Notion that You Are Wasting Your Time or Talents
Ask yourself this question, “If you choose a different path, are you really wasting your time or talents?” Is that true? Or will you just be using different talents, or using your talents in a different way? If you are doing something you love, pursuing your passion and your purpose, you are contributing to the world and elevating the level of universal happiness.
Stop Playing It Safe
If you don’t go out of your comfort zone, you’re never going to grow. You don’t have to jump off the cliff to stop playing it safe. Just dip your toe in the water. Trust that change, like everything, is a process that happens over time. Track the steps you need to take to get to where you want to go, and write them down. Then just keep putting one foot in front of the other. You will get there as long as you continue taking those steps.
Identify What You Are Most Afraid Of
The first question, “What am I afraid of?” must be met with a candid answer. What are you afraid of? Are you afraid you may become homeless if you start your new coaching business? How realistic is that, really? This is where you have to drill down. Let’s imagine you start a new coaching business and don’t have any clients for the first month. Should you quit your day job just yet? Do you have a savings account? If you leave your current career, are you leaving that skillset behind with the job or do your skills stay with you? By identifying what you fear, you can take steps to identify ways you can prevent those fears from coming to fruition.